De Toga op een Kiertje: Coming out as Holistic Lawyer

In January 2014, I had a serious skiing-accident. My pelvis was fractured in several places on the left side. Was it time to leave my left-brain as it was? From 24/7 racing I went to staying on my back 24/7. In the first couple of months I still managed to work from my hospital bed, and later the bedroom, via my mobile phone and iPad, to speak to my clients and after some six weeks I was even able to receive clients in my house. I dolled myself up and could focus for two hours, but thereafter I was shattered the rest of the day. A long and painful process followed with surgery, rehabilitation and reflection.

Rebirth in Maui
At the beginning of 2015 I said goodbye to my crutches, I was free! I wanted to go and meet Dr Wayne Dyer who organized a conference in Maui at the end of January. I had read everything the man had written and his books were a narration of my view of life. I felt heard and recognized.

The physician allowed me to fly. I departed and had a 20-hour flight to Maui. That was a 36-hour day but I felt blissfully happy.

The retreat in Maui changed my life. It was a re-birth. I got charged up again with energy, I sailed on a catamaran along mating whales, it was paradise. Just positive energy. Dr Dyer was great. I sat in the front row and felt his energy. I hang on his every word, everything he told I had read already at least three times in his books but I still was inspired by him. ‘You can make the change. Think at the end. Create your own life.’ Have I not done so all my life? But was I now allowed to do so always, unconditionally and without reservation? Just having confidence in my Impersonal Self, my inner Self which is much bigger than my EGO.

After Maui I came home feeling reborn. With the family we went to Israel for a week, which was once again a very inspirational journey. In the Ramon Crater I experienced the power of the Negev Desert, at sunrise together with my son, we saw the most beautiful colours and views between the statues and stones that were placed there ages ago. What primal force and what energy there is in that place. As if you are sucked into that energy. The Chassidic Jews in their black hats who dance and sing at the Wailing Wall, the separation between women and men, between Jews and Muslims, between Armenian and Greek orthodox believers, between Catholics and Christians.

Coming out as Holistic Lawyer 

After Maui and Israel, I decided that in the future I would refer to myself as holistic lawyer and mediator, that I would admit as much. Would come out, because I want internally to be synchronic with what I show on the outside. My approach in divorce law practice has been holistic for years (since 2005), However, I have never plugged or propagated it as such.