De Toga op een Kiertje: May-Shall-Can I help you?

In order to be able as a professional, a legal expert, a coach or a mediator to make a good diagnosis or an intake, so, before you can start the course of assistance, you must verify three conditions:

1             may I help? You need the client’s explicit consent to be able to help him/her. If you do not receive such consent, you will run the risk that you will provide assistance based on your own will.

That’s why it is important that as a professional you recognize the powers within you. That what has to be done has a voice of its own. Therefore, I may help, but I do not have to. When I feel that I may help, because the client asks me so, I place myself in the flow and energy of life. Then I am in that power and that power can flow through me.

2          shall I help? To what extent do I receive consent in the time? After all, there is a right time for everything. And is it the right time now to act? Knowing how to leave things in the time instead of placing them in MY time is where the art comes in. That’s why sometimes it is better to allow the client to look for answers first instead of providing a solution straight away. This is a pitfall for lawyers who always see the solution at once! Don’t, keep it to yourself. Clients need time in the process to arrive at a certain state of consciousness. By sending energy too soon as a professional you may disturb this process. If I sow too early, there will not be a harvest. The key question you need to ask yourself as a professional during the process is therefore: Do I dare to let things mature?

3        can I help? This is the question the professional has to ask himself. Part of it has to do with the education and culture we live in. As a professional I should not forget to ask myself and to examine whether I will be able to assist this client. Am I now able to provide assistance? Do I have sufficient energy available to help the client? Do I have the necessary knowledge and experience? After all, the right persons can be found  for everything: I do not need to be able to do anything. This requires a matter-of-factness in the sense of being able to consider a situation ‘with an open mind’.